Healthy Sex

What is healthy sex?

  • Sex where a couple is using a condom and/or birth control method to prevent unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections.

Is that all?

  • NO. Using condoms and other birth control methods are parts of healthy sex - important parts. But there's much more.

What else is there?

  • Healthy sex is mutual, it's sex that you and your partner want to have.
  • It's sex that you both enjoy.
  • It's sex where you're comfortable enough to let each other know what feels good and what doesn't.
  • It's sex where you are relaxed because you are protected from pregnancy and infection.

Tell me more about healthy sex

  • Healthy sex can occur between a woman and a man, or between two men or two women. You do not have to be having sex with an opposite-sex partner to be having healthy sex.
  • Healthy sex is not limited to vaginal, oral or anal sex. It can also include touching each other's bodies anywhere that feels good to each of you.
  • Healthy sex may result in orgasm but does not have to. Sex can be pleasurable with or without an orgasm.

What gets in the way of healthy sex?

  • Worries, like:
    • Am I doing it right? What does my partner think?
    • We're not using protection and we should be to avoid pregnancy and STIs.
    • Other people don't approve of my same-sex partner.
    • Being distracted by other stresses or problems in your life
    • Talk to a doctor or social worker at the Young Men's Clinic about these issues. They can help.
  • Problems that interfere with pleasure, like:
    • Erectile Dysfunction (Difficulties having erections)
    • Premature Ejaculation (Ejaculating that happens sooner than desired, causing sexual frustration for the man and/or his partner).
    • A doctor or social worker at the Young Men's Clinic can talk with you and help you have healthier sex. Visit the clinic if you have questions or concerns.